Why are we so afraid to leave children alone?
Why are we so afraid to leave children alone?
- August 23, 2016
- UCI study finds moral judgments about parents affect perceptions of risk
Leaving a child unattended is considered taboo in today’s intensive parenting atmosphere,
despite evidence that American children are safer than ever. So why are parents denying
their children the same freedom and independence that they themselves enjoyed as children?
A new study by University of California, Irvine social scientists suggests that our
fears of leaving children alone have become systematically exaggerated in recent decades
– not because the practice has become more dangerous, but because it has become socially
unacceptable.
“Without realizing it, we have consistently increased our estimates of the amount
of danger facing children left alone in order to better justify or rationalize the
moral disapproval we feel toward parents who violate this relatively new social norm,”
said Ashley Thomas, cognitive sciences graduate student and lead author of the work,
published online this month in the open-access journal Collabra.
The survey-based study found that children whose parents left them alone on purpose
– to go to work, help out a charity, relax or meet an illicit lover – were perceived
to be in greater danger than those whose parents were involuntarily separated from
them.
The researchers presented survey participants with five different scenarios in which
a child was left alone for less than an hour. Situations ranged from a 10-month-old
who was left asleep for 15 minutes in a cool car parked in a gym’s underground garage
to an 8-year-old reading a book alone at a coffee shop a block from home for 45-minutes.
“Within a given scenario, the only thing that varied was the reason for the parent’s
absence,” said Kyle Stanford, professor and chair of logic & philosophy of science.
“These included an unintentional absence – caused by a fictitious accident in which
the mother was hit by a car and briefly knocked unconscious – and four that were planned:
leaving for work, volunteering for a charity, relaxing or meeting an illicit lover.
After reading each scenario and the reason behind each child being left alone, the
participants ranked on a scale of 1 to 10 how much estimated danger the child was
in while the parent was gone, 10 being the most risk.”
Overall, survey participants saw all of these situations as quite dangerous for children:
The average risk estimate was 6.99, and the most common ranking in all scenarios was
10. Despite identical descriptions of each set of circumstances in which children
were alone, those left alone on purpose were estimated to be in greater danger than
those whose parents left them alone unintentionally.
“In fact, children left alone on purpose are almost certainly safer than those left
alone by accident, because parents can take steps to make the situation safer, like
giving the child a phone or reviewing safety rules,” said Barbara Sarnecka, study
co-author and associate professor of cognitive sciences. “The fact that people make
the opposite judgment strongly suggests that they morally disapprove of parents who
leave their children alone, and that disapproval inflates their estimate of the risk.”
This is also born out in participants’ view of children left alone by a parent meeting
an illicit lover as being in significantly more danger than children left alone in
precisely the same circumstances by a parent who leaves in order to work, volunteer
for charity or just relax.
In scenarios where participants were asked to judge not only how much danger the child
was facing, but also whether the mother had done something morally wrong, researchers
expected the perceived risk ranking to be lower.
“We thought giving people an alternative way to express their disapproval of the parent’s
action would reduce the extent to which moral judgments influenced perceptions of
risk,” Thomas said. “But just the opposite happened. When people gave an explicit
judgment about the parent’s conduct, estimates of risk to the child were even more
inflated by moral disapproval of the parent’s reason for leaving.”
In fact, people’s risk estimates closely followed their judgments of whether mothers
in the scenarios had done something morally wrong. Even parents who left children
alone involuntarily were not held morally blameless, receiving an average “moral wrongness”
judgment of 3.05 on a 10-point scale.
The authors found another interesting pattern when they replaced mothers in the stories
with fathers: For fathers – but not mothers – a work-related absence was treated more
like an involuntary absence. This difference could stem from the view that work is
more obligatory and less of a voluntary choice for men.
“Exaggerating the risks of allowing children some unsupervised time has significant
costs besides the loss of children’s independence, freedom and opportunity to learn
how to solve problems on their own,” Sarnecka said. “As people have adopted the idea
that children must never be alone, parents increasingly face the possibility of arrest,
charges of abuse or neglect, and even incarceration for allowing their children to
play in parks, walk to school or wait in a car for a few minutes without them.”
“At a minimum,” she continued, “these findings should caution those who make and enforce
the law to distinguish evidence-based and rational assessments of risk to children
from intuitive moral judgments about parents – and to avoid investing the latter with
the force of law.”
The study involved survey responses by 1,328 participants on Amazon Mechanical Turk
ranging in age from 18 to 75, with a fairly even split of men and women and those
with and without children. Females accounted for 52 percent of respondents, while
48 percent were male; and 56.43 percent had children, while 43.57 percent did not.
More than 80 percent of the participants were white, and two-thirds had completed
at least some college.
About the University of California, Irvine: Founded in 1965, UCI is the youngest member of the prestigious Association of American
Universities. The campus has produced three Nobel laureates and is known for its academic
achievement, premier research, innovation and anteater mascot. Led by Chancellor Howard
Gillman, UCI has more than 30,000 students and offers 192 degree programs. It’s located
in one of the world’s safest and most economically vibrant communities and is Orange
County’s second-largest employer, contributing $5 billion annually to the local economy.
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